Friday, January 31, 2025
The Stupid Friend, Allegedly
I have “friends” that I mostly reach out to when I have problems. Because they’re eligible to help me and usually like the capable ones. Unfortunately, I might not be able to bring value back to any one of them because I’m still in my building stage, broke stage and if I had it figured out, I wouldn’t need them to solve my problems.
That’s a different scenario.
Some people use me as a problem solving friend or problem solving manager or problem solving tool, I can’t even find the right term for it. My presence is only ever acknowledged when there is a certain kind of problem and I’m pushed to the side after it’s fixed. They have their glory days and I’m usually not part of it, then there are times when I need them and they’re not available. Even when its a task as subtle as liking a social media post.
Yet, they want me to be their 911 which I’ll eventually do. But the audacity to get pissed at me because I didn’t solve your problem ASAP, at your own timing is very irritable because I’ve got my problems and my family’s too ! And it’s not like you’ll do the same for me if I asked !
I do good because I’m trying to attract good to me too. When I’m good to someone, I don’t do it because I’m expecting something in return either but is it not stupid that I will drown myself in mud for you, you wouldn’t. Just because I wasted one minute before jumping into the muddy lake, you’re pissed, isn’t that stupid ?
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It’s crazy!!
ReplyDeleteVery !
DeleteAvoid those kind of people for your own mental sanity
ReplyDeleteDefinitely !
DeleteWow
ReplyDeleteHonestly they’re different types of friends. They are seasonal friends: the ones that comes and goes when things are juicy or bad.
Then there are the 911 friends: they don’t talk much but are always available ready to pick up from wherever you both stopped.
The the unconditional: they’re more than friends they’re practically family.
So know how to classify the people around you and place them in each category so you could understand what you should expect from them and what to give to the.
I’ll do this for sure. Thank you
DeleteStay away from people like this!!!!
ReplyDeleteI do understand you, it's fucked up and all
ReplyDeleteButttttt
I'll advise you take a step back and just look around you and carefully figure out who are your friends
Don't tag everyone your friend
Put em accordingly;
Leeches
Pepole you just know
Acquaintance
Then the Real homies
I took 199 steps back. It’s okay to be a problem solver friend but it’s not okay that people take advantage of that. Thank you so much
DeleteDo the calms my love
ReplyDeleteI can relate with what you're saying
Ur good nor go kill u ma
Love always❤️
E no go fit kill me, lol
DeleteBut you deserve reciprocity too. People who only see you as a problem solver and not as a full-fledged friend aren’t really your people. Honestly I can relate too 🥹🥹
ReplyDeleteIt’s okay to set boundaries. You don’t have to jump into the mud every time, especially when you know they wouldn’t do the same. Your kindness isn’t the problem—it’s the lack of appreciation from those who take it for granted. .... Don't do too much ok
I’ll keep that in mind
DeleteYour frustration is valid. You’re in one-sided relationships where people take your help for granted but don’t reciprocate. It’s okay to be kind, but not at your own expense. Set boundaries. Real friends will respect them. Don’t be everyone’s “911” if they wouldn’t do the same for you.
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